“After the Cake” – Humble musings on marriage as an understanding, supportive, and loving partner…even when I just want to scream “REALLY?? More after the jump…
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Porto, Portugal just got crossed off my travel bucket list! Take a peek and see why I reccomend this Northern area of Portugal for your next travel destination…or wedding.
It is no surprise that there is a certain beauty to simplicity. We are so used to plenty and excess that now simplicity is now becoming the favored aesthetic for decor, design and yes, weddings. For those of you who are followers or readers of this blog, you know that nothing makes me happier that...
It is no secret that I prefer the clean and simple over excess. When something is, what I call, exquisitely simple, it needs nothing to make it more wonderful that includes cocktails and food. If you have been following my journey from the very beginning (it’s OK if you haven’t because you are here now)...
It’s finally Friday, and that means happy hour! Enjoy this simple to make libation to get the weekend started off. All you need for this pretty cocktail are a few ingredients you may already have.
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So very true. So beautifully said… and I love how Lena’s parents (I see it in the comments) read this at their wedding…
Naomi, I think I’ve shared that my parents read this passage at their wedding–as a child, I couldn’t understand why they’d read something so “unromantic”, but as I’ve made my own commitment, I don’t think the value of space freely given and fully cherished can be overstated. Such a beautiful post.
Oh, I so absolutely agree! To me, it is about being a team, a partnership. Any successful team has shared goals, but each member of the team has different roles to play, based on their skills, talents, and interests. That doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy learning about the other’s role and interests, but we don’t need to totally take it on as our own.
In my marriage, I am a baseball gal, and he is a car guy. Early on, he started to go to baseball games with me, as he loved seeing the grin on my face at games, and began to learn about baseball (if he had to be there, might as well know more), especially as he learned that my heart went aflutter when he could make some knowledgeable comment about my Padres or the game. And I did the same thing with cars and car events for him – all because I love that grin on his face, and making his heart go aflutter with my interest in his passion. But really, I know he would never choose to go to a baseball game, just as I would never choose to spend all day at a hot or cold race track, but you do things like that for each other. And, you also don’t hesitate to let them go off and spend the day enjoying their passion without you, as you look forward to them coming home to you afterward and enjoying it all again in the re-telling!
We are a team, with shared goals and a joint destination, and we know we always have the other’s back. But we are not twins and don’t ever aim to be.
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These were my parents’ wedding vows, 34 years ago just this week. When I was younger I couldn’t make sense of it, but as I’ve grown up, I see so much goodness in space within your unity. Thank you for this beautiful post.
Ohhh friend, you are so gifted with your words and such a breath of refreshment. Your authenticity is contagious and I think you nailed one of the HARDEST aspects of marriage: sharing a common goal but providing each partner enough space to be themselves. Such a delicate balance! I love you!! xoxo
For my evening friends a new series -After the Cake for those married/partnered 1st post giving & getting space http://t.co/hQsydTIB
Loving this series! A wedding is only the start of the adventure….
After the Cake a new series on the married life. Are you allowing your partner to grow ?http://t.co/wvlcMAPO #marriedlife
I’m loving this new series on life after the wedding from @NaomiVGoodman! http://t.co/2FCQmgAU
I must admit, I’ve never read The Prophet but now I REALLY want to! I agree with you completely. I think a strong marriage is made of two strong individuals who come together to create a strong partnership of support. I’m excited for more from this series!
I couldn’t agree more!!! Great post!!!!!
love this
My new series is called “After the Cake” is about marriage http://t.co/hQsydTIB The 1st post “Space in Your Togetherness”