After the Cake :: Paul Newman on Marriage

It has been awhile since I have wrote for the series “After the Cake” today seemed like a good day to do so. Often on Inside the Lovely or on our Facebook page I share how to make your wedding day beautiful, the latest bridal collections, or trends. However, a wedding is not and should not be considered the foundation of your marriage. It is a joyous celebration to honor your commitment to one another. A marriage starts long before either partner says, “I do.” Paul Newman wrote this to his wife on their wedding day…and it is one of my favorites. I want you to have the best life with your partner not just the best wedding:

“Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”

– Paul Newman {Married to Joanne Woodward for 50 years until his death in 2008.}

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